There are those who make claims of having the perfect childhood and there are the oppositional views from those who have sworn to never raise their children how they were raised. Know matter how convincing to a degree parents are, that original home environment always detours in the same direction of guiding and disciplining children. Many words can come out of a parents mouth so venomously without hesitation, parents never give a second thought of how it may affect the child. From generation to generation, no matter where in society a parent stands, the realism can hit hard that bullying is a by product unconsciously inflicted and created by parents. The defensive mechanism kicks in when ever a parent is unhappy by a response and forever pulled into a control battle with a child. Thoughts of bullying my own child had never crossed my mind until my own child yelled back at me and told me "to stop being a bully to him." The astronomical self help books on Parenting align the shelf's, some read, some started, some collecting dust. Not a person in this world likes to be told how to parent their child but if a society wants to change the tactics on bullying, parents need to take a look in the mirror. In a few words it is best said, by David Clarke, Ph.D., in his book Parenting isn't for Super Heroes, "Your child is very careful not to voice an opinion in your presence, unless it is your opinion." and "When you open your mouth to speak, you child should listen and agree without question."(2003, p. 41), pointing out to Parents a continual pattern of what is thought as letting a child know who is in charge. Guilty as charged, guided by my own thoughts of how I should raise my children, I at times am a bully.
These opinions and thoughts are not intended to attack anyone personally, they are only my perceptions of where bullying begins.
